My Project

Hey, Guys This year I have been thinking so much about my life and reflecting on so many things which happened to me in the past and it has really helped me to overcome a lot of my issues. I am just one autistic girl on a mission to help people like myself. So as an early Christmas present to you all because I just can’t contain my excitement and to be able to get started with the actual thing instead of spending my life conceptualising it. I mean there is just so much I can write to this project. Tomorrow Its the Nitty Gritty Code behind it.


Code….. Wait Does That Mean


Yep, I am creating a website!

I am so excited to make this site. What is it going to be about? YOU! Teens and Adults with Autism coming together and having a safe place to connect. Parents don’t think I have forgotten you there will be a place for you to connect as well. Here’s the catch It is a Bully free zone. So many of us on the spectrum have encountered bullying at one point in our lives. So I am creating a place where we can go and be ourselves without being judged. Even as I am in the alternate persona I get the odd hate comment. In life itself, I used to get it bad from the ones I used to travel into school with.

What do you think of my new project? Oh and, by the way, I need name suggestions.


Captain Spectrum  @Capt_Spectrum Thanks for giving me the motivation to do this.



Back to Basics. History of Autism. Hans Asperger

Dr Hans Asperger is a Viennese child pyschologist who published his first definition of Asperger Syndrome in 1944. Previously in 1926 Eva Sucharewa (a Russian scientific assistant) wrote a paper called “Schizoid Personality of Childhood” 

It gave an account of 6 boys and their behavioral issues, this paper closely resembles the findings of Dr Hans Asperger who died in October 1980 with his work not recognised in the English Speaking World

Looking through all this history all the research has been done on boys. Maybe thats why the research is all biased towards men instead of women.

I was reading this journal about Hans Asperger and their was this little note. Hans knew autism was life long and everyone would carry their talents on with them into adulthood. This contrasts with Dr Leo Kanner’s description of Autism. The reason behind Hans Asperger knowing the condition is lifelong is because he followed this one child Fritz into adulthood. Fritz was a genius, he became a professor of astronomy. He worked out an error in Newton’s work which he noticed as a child.

This series has got me really interested, I never even knew that as a child Hans Asperger exhibted symptoms of the very condition which was named after him.

Next Week or maybe later in this. Depending on how much work I get I will be looking at Pyschologist Bruno Bettelheim


Advice for the working

Hey guys and girlies. Joag here again. I want to talk today about working whilst on the spectrum. I know I covered employment a few months back but now I have a job and been in it for a month. I want to cover a few topics which may benefit some of you.

First of Retail. If you work in retail or are planning on Retail I want you to know it’s not as scary as you may think. The key is time. Give yourself time to adjust. Your not going to learn everything in a day. Trust me as smart as you all are. It won’t happen in a day!
Secondly speed and accuracy. These two things come when you have had time and training. I’m still learning and I may not be the quickest but I sure am accurate.
If you make a mistake. Don’t let it own you. You can do better. Manys a time I have wanted to melt down but I had to realize it was one mistake. The business has probably had many me’s before. It’s not going to fall into its knees.

OK this is sounding like a letter to me. But its good advice and maybe I should take it onboard.

You administrators out there this is for you. Relax your gonna be great. It’s all about letting your personality shine. Now let me tell you about my two years in admin. I adored them. Again like everything I didn’t learn it all in a day. The key is patience. Not everyone is going to be as happy as you. I have a great example. An angry parent phoned to complain about pay (in the UK we pay x amount of money per week to the student for their education). Now this parent saw that the x amount was not what it should have been. And the boss in charge was not in. I tried to tell him that all I could do was take a number and leave a message. Not good enough for him. I ended up bearing the brunt of the abuse which I knew wasn’t directed at me. After the call. I had 2 choices I could internalise the anger and feel like I messed up. Or take a moment evaluate and say to myself that’s not my fault. I chose the latter. There’s a lesson in that story somewhere. Don’t worry if you get an angry call. It’s not your fault

That’s about the extent of my working knowledge. If I work in other sectors il maybe update this information a bit more

The biggest debate. Trump has ever lost

Presidential Elections: Trump tops the idiot poll

Well my friends you all asked for it so here it is, the start of my extra days blogging and I am starting with a doozy. Your presidential candidate Donald Trump is now attacking Autism. I do not know where he has been for the last 15 or so years. But Hello Trump, I want you to open your ears and hear this loud and clear, Autism is not caused by VACCINES!!! and No we are not an epidemic we are human beings just like you. In another life you or your children or granchildren could have autism. Geez what would he be like then I dread to think
My good god this man is dim, I am reading comments and watching snips of the CNN Debate from last night and my word I am crying in laughter at this moronic comments he is making, He is making autism out to be a disease that the world needs to eradicate. Ok Trump Eradicate it Eradicate all the millions of people who are 100,000,000x smarter than you will ever be. Yes you have business knowledge I will give you that but stick to what you know Autism is not some virus that can be passed from an injection. Although you clearly seem to think getting a jab and the reaction to that is fever then autism.  OK OK Let me slow this down to a level you are capable of trump. VAC-CINES Do Not Cause Autism, It was a reaction to the med-ic-ine. The child you witnessed already had autism it was just not diagnosed. Autism is not contageious.

ZMIG if you are reading my blog i completely agree with you about how you feel about him.

Trump I am calling you out if you believe your claim has any validity back it up with the science from today not the 1990s. And furthermore if you believe their could be a link why do you vaccinate your children, are they not at risk if that is your belief.

I will applaud you for one thing though Trump, thank you for bringing autism to a global platform, now more than ever there is more debate. But wanna know a secret, We haven’t found a definite link to what causes autism yet.

Senses Series Part 1. Touch and Autism

Senses Series Part 1

Touch and Autism, Pleasure or pain

Welcome guys last week I gave you all an overview of my sense series which will be happening over the next 5 weeks. Today I want to talk about TOUCH!

They say human touch is what helps us to feel emotionally connected to each other, but for people with autism, The nerves which signal pleasure rather than pain are sometimes crossed and these nerves known as ” c-tactile afferents ” These crossed wires if you will are the reasons why certain textures touching the skin are uncomfortable to those on the spectrum, I know this personally because my feet are hypersensitive to touch, i can barely stand cotton socks on my feet, without my feet itching like mad. To explain it to your child when they wonder why they don’t like this touch I always think of Kuzco from the Emperor’s new Groove. “No Touchy” He exhibits feelings of not liking to be touched, sometimes I think his self absorption and his obsessions are exhibits of autism, but I have yet to ask Disney about this.

Thinking of my own personal life in regards to this topic i can come up with many examples of how touch affects me. i.e. I am not sure how many of you will relate to this, but my hair itches the heck out of me, whether its my scalp itching even when my hair is clean or whether it lands on my arm or anywhere on my body it is like striking a match and feeling the heat as it burns down. Thats how my body feels when a strand of hair hits my skin.

Touch is the first sense to mature, it is fully functional shortly after birth, but for those on the spectrum, it may have developed abnormally. I know there are a lot of different stimuli which people on the spectrum cannot stand, some cannot stand the tags on tops and some cannot stand certain textures touching their skin. Another and the final example from me on this topic is those bags you get in the supermarket, i hate the touch of those and also the sound of the produce you put into them, anyway thats another post.

If you or your child is autistic what stimuli do you not like the touch of.

Autism and romantic relationships

Hey Guys I’m back with a short 3 part series about autism and relationships. Today i’l be starting with romantic relationships and how hard it is for people on the spectrum to connect with their partners. Tomorrow il be writing about autism and family relationships and on Tuesday as well as my regular post il be writing about autism and friendships. I am sure i can expand this but for now that’s the first three I can think of.

Reading through the FAQ’s on I find myself answering some of the questions in my head.

Some people enter into relationships not fully understanding what Autism is.
In the dictionary, Autism is defined as a mental condition, present from early childhood, characterized by great difficulty in communicating and forming relationships with other people and in using language and abstract concepts.
Now reading that I am confused it’s too wordy. These big words don’t help anyone understand what autism is. So let me tell you it in my own words.

What Is Autism?

Autism is an umbrella term used to describe many difficulties faced by a person, usually these difficulties are social and affect how a person communicates and relates to others and how they understand the world. Sometimes these difficulties leave people unable to talk.

Autism and romantic relationships.

When people enter into relationships with an autistic person, they sometimes are unaware of all the problems that their partner may face. Sometimes their obsessions and hobbies are seen as obstructions to daily life. In another series I will be talking about obsessions and hobbies. 

Sometimes the autistic partner may seem aloof to your feelings or events which are coming up, birthdays, anniversaries, dates. They may not tell you they love you, but that is not to say they don’t feel it, it may just be that they do not see the necessity for the social convention which you and I need, or it could be the fact they just do not understand the need for it to be told more than once.

For someone on the spectrum, they may not be able to read the non verbal cues, they find it hard to see more than their point of view. So communication is an issue for someone on the spectrum in relationships.

I know i have had partners in the past both on and off the spectrum and for every relationship communication was the main problem. Maybe it was me who was too shy and quiet because i wanted to keep them happy but that was making me miserable. My last partner our communication wasn’t the best which is why we split, I had family issues going on at home which meant I could not give my partner my full attention and for reasons which I still don’t believe we split, he said he was giving me time to sort myself out. But a simple text doesn’t take long, since then i have been on two dating sites talking to guys and both times its been communication which was our downfall.
If the world were more honest then it would be a better place right? well in a relationship you have got to accept the fact that your partner will be brutally honest.

Don’t be alarmed if they decline social situations, it may just be that large crowds set off an anxiety which makes them feel uncomfortable in group situations.

I love having autism and yes it can be a blessing and a curse at times but its part of my makeup – if i try to hide the real me, then I am not being me


Education and Autism – are our schools equipped to help those on the spectrum

Are our schools failing our children…

As a lot of our children nowadays are misdiagnosed on the spectrum. They are finding it increasingly difficult to integrate themselves fully into school. For being different to the neurotypical kids, they are outcast and seen as different. Their meltdowns are seen as challenging behavior. For many this may be the case. I know boys on the spectrum who lash out in fits of anxiety, they do not mean to cause any harm yet they feel caged and to break the cage they need push forward and run, which is potentially putting themselves in danger. Schools do not see what goes on inside the mind of an autistic child unless they have been correctly diagnosed and the school has the proper training to be able to cope with our children. But unfortunately we live in a society where awareness in schools is limited because of our screwed up government lining their own pockets instead of providing our schools with the adequate resources to help those on the spectrum (This is why i am glad i write anon because that kind of comment would be frowned upon if everyone knew who i was) But unfortunately the government does not care. It is more than happy to turn a blind eye to those in need. In Northern Ireland I can count on one hand the number of specialist schools who are trained to deal with children with specialist needs and if we are to be an “Equal” society i feel this needs to change. Yes OK i get it we don’t have the funding to support it but if we could supply the correct training to schools all over the UK not just NI we may be able to help our kids thrive instead of just survive.

I am sick of hearing this school is below standard, this school is failing, it is failing because we do not understand the needs of today’s children. More and more children are born with special needs and unless we support them. Our whole society will fail not just the schools but when those children grow up, they will be a society of unemployed because no one will want to employ them because they were failed at school.

Educate NOW for a Better Tomorrow

I know this may seem like a rant but it just how i feel and I would love to know, what you think of our education system. Are we doing enough to support tomorrows children today?

See My Second Post Today… Autism School Checklist make sure you are equipped!